#3. Treasure your friends. I have actually run into people who have a friend they have know since preschool, even younger then that but preschool is when they can remember them. Do not take that friend for granted. It does take work and sometimes you have to go out of your way but do it. Believe me it will all come back to you. At one point in my life I actually turned away a friend. Here is what happened..... My friend called me after not seeing each other for twenty some years. She was so excited to come and see me. I told her I did not think that was a good idea as I was very busy and didn't have time to see her. I actually heard the hurt in her voice when she said, "You don't want me to come and see you?." Why, oh why would I do such a horrible thing ? Well, at the time I thought it was the right thing, (not really, I was just trying to convince myself ). You see at the time one of my children had made some horrible choices and was into drugs and running with bad characters. I was so embarrassed for my friend to see that, that I wanted her to hate me and never consider coming around. I succeeded. I have never heard from her since, along with some other friends that were, at one time, in our circle. What a fool I was, if anything I know she would have been a good friend and someone I could have talked to but I have to admit it was my ego that got in the way. Of course in less than a year my child had straighten up and was doing fine but I had hurt my friend and did not have a chance in hell of ever seeing her again. I mean lets face it, how could I explain, "I hurt you so I wouldn't be embarrassed". A little self centered on my part. I will regret that for the rest of my life and can still hear the hurt in her voice. So you see I lost a good friend because I didn't take care of the friendship.
You do find out just what true friends you have when sickness or financial problems occur. After the last time I had GBS
I found out I had no friends, no kidding. I really believed some of them would come around but none did. I probably understand that better as I know it scares a lot of people. I was not in good shape and was learning how to walk etc. all over again. It's just hard to know how to act and just what you are suppose to do. I do get that, I mean lets face it the friendship
has taken a different turn and sometimes it just doesn't fit anymore. It's just too uncomfortable for some people. Then you go on and meet new friends, usually close to your own behavior and that's alright as you are more comfortable also. Then you have the financial loss. Well, this is dramatic to say the least. We ended up losing our business, our jobs and our home. Now we are living on a relatives property. That's pretty unbelievable. But we have managed to keep out heads above water and are doing good. Of course our lifestyle has changed. No more eating out a lot, or shopping for fun, buying all those extra's in groceries, going to the show (except on tightwad tuesdays) but you want to know something, I don't miss any of that. Especially since we have joined the gym. Yes, it is our social time meeting new friends everyday but it's also a place where Jim and I have restored our self esteem. Let me tell you when you lose everything it takes a toll on your soul but you also realize just what is important. I don't take anything for granted. I treasure every friend I meet now and applaud their different personalities as each one is unique. I treasure everyday, every minute of my life and try to live in the now. There can not be worrying about the past, that's over, nor do I worry about the future. I'm concerned and do what I can today to keep my future coming but I try to have an open mind and except and handle what is handed to me. I do love my life now, it's simple, loving, and caring about other people which I realize in the circle of life that takes care of me. Tootles
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